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Here Lies The Key To Saying NO For Your Own Good



"Don't let the good things in life rob you of the best things." 
-Buster Rothman

How many times have we let ourselves be trapped on the dilemma in choosing between two or more good alternatives? I'm definite we all had those times. Although interestingly, there were those who have mastered the art of choosing what’s best.

But what is the best?

If it had been choosing between the good and the bad, obviously the answer will be somehow easy. Nevertheless, often that is not the case. Even if we’re to make even the simplest tasks, we are confronted and forced to make compromise time and again.

Most of the time we are confronted with either two or more alternatives that were not essentially bad, yet it can hinder us from doing what we're supposed to be doing instead!

How are we to deal in choosing what’s best when everything seems to be a good choice? Or how are we to arrange when deadlock with our commitments to our family, friends and bosses?

Thus, we frequently choose the facile alternative. And we would sometimes hope that we had plenty of time, plenty of money and resources; and stability to keep going and not jumping into erroneous conclusions.

The inability to say no to distraction usually caused us a lot of unnecessary stress. Choices like whether or not to miss going to church to attend a birthday party, or to go to a retreat and miss an out-of town getaway with the family and friends. To some, it's either choosing to work in the morning to live a normal day or to work at night with the possibility of earning more. Paradoxically, even choosing a book to read can take us a lot of time to decide!

We all wish to eliminate time wasters, to just say no and conserve our energy on things that will make us happy and will take us a step closer to our goals. To just say no to people who constantly drain us, or stop giving so much assistance to other people so we can work on our dreams.

As hard as it may seem, we must tell ourselves that such situations are inevitable. Still, we don’t need to hit our head on the wall yet, there is a solution to aid us in choosing the better alternative which will benefit us in the long run.

The answer is straightforward and simple really, nevertheless it will take a lot of courage, discipline and determination.


It is by having a firm grasp of our priorities.

What do we want to accomplish in life? We need to ask ourselves about what's important to us. What do we value the most? Does our relationships matter to us more than work? What are our personal goals? We need to step back, and find what is valuable.

It is important that we know clearly our priorities in life in order for us to make wiser choices. The key to saying no, is to know our priorities.


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